A Man’s Guide To Dressing Better (Part 1)
This is part one of a series of articles on how to dress better, feel more confident, and look good while doing it.
I remember the day vividly. I needed to find something to wear to go to the store. I rummaged through my closet and threw on a too big white t-shirt, some old denim jeans, and semi-dirty Timberlands. As I closed my closet, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. That’s when I realized it: I did not know how to dress. I went back in my closet, trying to find something more suitable until another wave of emotions hit me. “I’m in my 30s but I still dress like I’m 17”. As I looked through my wardrobe, I wore dress shirts that were too big, pants that were ill fitting, shoes that were run down, and belts that should have thrown away a long time ago.
I tell this story because I’m sure many men have had a moment when they thought, “I want to dress better” but then said “I don’t have the time, money, energy, or know how ”. Hopefully, these articles can help you understand that you can do it. And it won’t take a lot of time, money, and you’ll have better knowledge.
Lies We Tell Ourselves
Let me first debunk some lies we tell ourselves as men:
I’m not into fashion
I understand. Shopping for clothes, trying to remember if you already have a blue shirt, figuring out what to wear is not for everyone. But I’m not trying to get you to know the latest style of men’s fashions from Paris. Nor do you have to be a fashionista. This is not about fashion, this is about being able to make a statement as a man.
I just wear clothes that are functional not stylish
At some level, we all care about the way we look. If not, then we’d walk around with potato sacks for clothes and brown bags for shoes. We all have that favorite pair of jeans or those worn boots that feel just right. It’s not a problem to wear clothes that are functionional but part of dressing better is understanding what to wear and when to wear it.
I don’t have money to purchase brand new clothes
Trust me fellas! One of the thing that bothers me about looking at mens clothes is how expensive they can be. I’ll teach you how to build a wardrobe for pennies on the dollar.
Benefits of Dressing Better
I can remember the first time I wore something that looked good and fit good. I stopped by my mothers house and she said “Wow, you look great! What have you been doing?!” I told her that my secret was dressing better. Her compliment that day gave me the fuel I needed to continue to dress better. I’m sure there is a scientific study out there that’ll back this up but when you dress better you have more confidence.
People treat you differently/take you more seriously
Along with your new found swagger, you’ll start to notice that people may dress you a little differently. People automatically judge you by what you wear and will come up with preconceived notions about you before they even speak to you. You know the old saying “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover”? Well let me tell you that’s a lie! We ALL judge people by their cover (or what they have on).
Swoon your significant other
If you have a girlfriend, spouse, or significant other they will appreciate you dressing better. Even if your everyday outfit is a t-shirt, jeans, and tennis shoes. Whenever I put an outfit on that my wife likes, she gives me a little wink of approval. What she’s really saying is, “Wow you look handsome!” Insert a bunch of googley eyes and heart emjois. Not only will you make them take a second look at you, they will be proud to say “Look how dapper my man is”.
Set an example for your sons
Part of the reason why we don’t know how to dress is because our fathers didn’t take the time out to show us how to properly dress as men. Maybe your dad wasn’t around. Maybe your dad was around but never taught you how to tie a tie or what type of dress shoes to wear with what. We can break that cycle now and teach our sons how to dress as men.
In part 2, we’ll look at some practical steps on your way to dressing better